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Dickflashers United

August 5th, 2011 | 6 comments | Posted by Diana

The first time I was flashed by someone’s unsolicited penis, I was 12. My female cousin and I were sitting at an outdoor table on the patio of a little French-Vietnamese cafe, eating cake, giggling, likely talking about floral skirts or boys. In the middle of a sentence, I noticed a man about five yards away, standing at his bicycle. “Yuck,” I said to my cousin. “That old  guy’s staring at us.”

“What guy?” she asked.

“Uh, the weird old guy over there standing at his bike,” I muttered under my breath. “Don’t look, don’t look, he’ll see–”

She turned unsubtly to look. I took another glance then, too, what the hell.

Undisturbed, the bike man kept staring at us. I immediately retreated from the eye contact and dropped my gaze… down… to… his limp penis, which was hanging out of the open zipper in his pants, the tip resting weirdly on the top tube of the bike frame.

Dirty, I thought, referring to both the tip-touched bike frame and the perv.

I was nervous and wanted to escape. She, thankfully, hadn’t taken in the whole picture yet. I spoke through my teeth, code-speaking a plan to get back inside to the safety of the cafe and its brightly-lit bakery case, and she followed me despite her confusion. We hid inside as he tucked his worm back in and pedaled away, then ran back to where we’d left our parents.

In the decades since, I’ve probably glimpsed about ten more strangers’ penises that I never wanted to see. Some silently shown, some being wanked, some flaccid, some less so, all hideous–because frankly, there’s nothing more hideous than an unsolicited penis.

Which is why I wish I had the nards to create a fake membership and start digging around on Dickflash.com, a forum for people that love to, uh, flash their dicks to strangers (and a couple of hanger-on basic exhibitionists), which Jezebel’s Irin Carmon kindly infiltrated and investigated earlier this week. Continue reading Dickflashers United

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AMAZIAN OF THE WEEK! Debra Suh

January 18th, 2010 | 1 comment | Posted by Diana

As you know, we’ve had the pleasure of joining hundreds of AAPI community members in a campaign to raise money for the Center for the Pacific Asian Family, an organization that provides very necessary resources for victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. One of the benefits of getting involved with CPAF was meeting its extraordinary Executive Director, Debra Suh, a lawyer who has been working with the organization for over a decade.

Debra Suh, Executive Director of the Center for the Pacific Asian Family

Name: Debra Suh

Hails from: Los Angeles

Occupation: Executive Director of the Center for the Pacific Asian Family, a non-profit organization recognized nationally for its pioneering work in domestic violence and sexual assault in the Los Angeles Asian and Pacific Islander (API) community.

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Love Thy Sistas: A Vote For CPAF

January 15th, 2010 | 3 comments | Posted by Diana

One of the reasons my father raised the girls in my family to be such sassy broads is that his mother was not one. Raised in northern Vietnam, my paternal grandmother was an extremely passive woman. Throughout her marriage to my rough, domineering grandfather, she dealt with pain, fear and anger with one tool: silence.

The Center for the Pacific Asian Family provides a multi-lingual 24-hour call center, emergency shelter, transitional housing program, counseling services and community outreach programs that focuses on the needs of victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in the Los Angeles area.

To sum up: they help break the silence surrounding violence, for women not unlike my grandma (and maybe yours)–by being just a phone call away.

Here’s the lowdown: The economy shat on CPAF this year. Their budget was cut in half. This won’t affect their commitment to the mission, but it does change their ability to staff all of the people with all of those language abilities 24 hours a day.

What if somebody decides to break their silence and give a call, but there’s nobody to pick up the phone? That’s a scene I don’t want to even think about.

The reason I’m telling you all of this is because CPAF is now part of a major Chase Community Giving Contest on Facebook, and having soared through the first round, is currently in the running for a $1 million grant. We joined a bunch of peeps (from Lisa Ling to Sandra Oh to David Choi to Beau Sia) in a PSA campaign to promote this phase of the contest.

Note: the voting period only lasts for ONE WEEK, January 15 – January 22.

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