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Cadillac, The Car Of Choice For Philanderers And Wife-Beaters

October 19th, 2010 | 1 comment | Posted by Jen

First Tiger Woods, now Junior Seau…what is it about the Cadillac Escalade that makes it the perfect getaway car for men involved–allegedly–in domestic disputes?

Seau’s Escalade Escapade

Seau, who was arrested Sunday night on suspicion of domestic violence committed against his 25 year-old live-in girlfriend, drove his 3-ton SUV off a seaside cliff a few hours after the arrest. The NFL veteran came away from the accident with minor injuries and reportedly told police that he had fallen asleep at the wheel. His agent, Mike Kinkler, told ESPN that the arrest and the accident were unrelated.

“One had nothing to do with the other,” Kinkler said. “It’s unfortunate the two events happened so close together, but what people are reporting is completely untrue.”

Uh-huh. That’s what Tiger said.

This can’t possibly help the reputation of the Escalade as the douchemobile of choice, but it likely won’t hurt sales either, especially since Cadillac’s have soared 43.8% in the first nine months of this year. Because even philanderers and wife-beaters–alleged, that is–need a bumpin’ set of wheels.

[NY Times: Seau Is Injured in Crash Only Hours After Arrest]
[USA Today: Ex-wife: Junior Seau was not trying to kill himself when car plunged off cliff]

Thanks, Aliah!

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’40 Year-Old Virgin’ Actor Stabbed Ex 20 Times, Blames “Mistaken Identity”

September 14th, 2010 | 4 comments | Posted by Jen

Actor Shelley Malil, who played one of Steve Carell’s co-workers in The 40 Year-Old Virgin, is currently on trial in Vista, CA for unpremeditated attempted murder, assault with a deadly weapon and residential burglary, after stabbing his ex-girlfriend Kendra Beebe 20 times in 2008.

Malil claims the stabbing was a case of “mistaken identity,” that he thought he was being attacked by Beebe’s male friend and was simply trying to protect himself.

“I’m sorry,” Malil, 45, said in the courtroom. “I had no idea. I saw the pictures (of her wounds) for the first time, I was stunned. When I look at those pictures, I still can’t believe the knife I was holding was responsible for all those injuries.”

Taking the stand in his own defense, the actor insisted he never intended to kill or hurt Kendra Beebe, 38, at her San Diego County house one night in August 2008. But then “chaos” broke out, some of which he says he still can’t remember clearly.

The LA Times reports that the jury is set to go into deliberations Tuesday and deliver a verdict…about 5 minutes later.*

Malil faces up to 21 years in prison.

*Call it a hunch.

[People: 40-Year-Old Virgin Actor: I Stabbed Girlfriend by Mistake]
[People: 40-Year-Old Virgin Actor Re-Enacts Stabbing in Court]
[LA Times: Jury may begin deliberations in assault trial of actor from 'The 40-Year-Old Virgin']

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January 18th, 2010 | 1 comment | Posted by Diana

As you know, we’ve had the pleasure of joining hundreds of AAPI community members in a campaign to raise money for the Center for the Pacific Asian Family, an organization that provides very necessary resources for victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. One of the benefits of getting involved with CPAF was meeting its extraordinary Executive Director, Debra Suh, a lawyer who has been working with the organization for over a decade.

Debra Suh, Executive Director of the Center for the Pacific Asian Family

Name: Debra Suh

Hails from: Los Angeles

Occupation: Executive Director of the Center for the Pacific Asian Family, a non-profit organization recognized nationally for its pioneering work in domestic violence and sexual assault in the Los Angeles Asian and Pacific Islander (API) community.

Continue reading AMAZIAN OF THE WEEK! Debra Suh

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An Open Letter From DISGRASIAN To Shawne Merriman

December 10th, 2009 | 0 comments | Posted by Diana

Hello Shawn,

Not a merry man

Not a merry man

Okay, we don’t know you. We’re not your big sisters. But if we were your big sisters–whoo boy, this “conversation” would be the 9,473,665th epic, painful, terrifying, soul-sucking Hardass Asian Sister lecture of the month, not just one kindly open letter on a blog.

We read today that you are finally suing your former fiancée, Tila Tequila–your part of the fallout for a boom-and-bust engagement that erupted in alleged violence and went down in internet flames. To be clear, we don’t and likely will never know what went down between the two of you that ugly night. Continue reading An Open Letter From DISGRASIAN To Shawne Merriman

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"Tila Deserved It"

September 8th, 2009 | 0 comments | Posted by Jen

Y’all know Diana and I aren’t exactly what you’d call fans of Tila Tequila. But when we found out Sunday morning that her boyfriend, San Diego Chargers linebacker Shawne Merriman, had been arrested for allegedly choking her, we instantly felt awful for her. Sure, we didn’t yet know the full story, but when you hear about a woman in a domestic abuse situation, you think about all women who’ve been in domestic abuse situations, you know? Which, by the way, is one-quarter of us. Yes, that’s right, 1 in 4 women will be victim to domestic violence in her lifetime. We all know these women. She could be your friend, your girlfriend, your mother. She could be you.

Looking for more details, I checked Twitter, where “Shawne Merriman” was a trending topic. And here’s a sampling of what I found:

The hashtag #tiladeservedit popped up in some of these Tweets, and every time it appeared, it was being RT’ed by one Chargers fan in particular (who I suspect authored the tag in the first place):

Two days later, what really happened between Shawne Merriman and Tila Tequila remains murky. Merriman’s claimed that Tila was drunk and he was trying to prevent her from driving. Tila responded Monday in a Tweet–which has since been removed–that she’s allergic to alcohol and doesn’t drink. It’s really unclear how this is all going to shake out. There’s a chance she may be lying and he may be innocent. But the people who cheered the news of a man allegedly committing violence against a woman? They’re already guilty of despicable behavior.

[Tila Tequila Twitter Page]
[Shawne Merriman Twitter Page]

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Hit Me, Baby… One More Time?

August 20th, 2009 | 0 comments | Posted by Diana

Global Health Magazine composed and posted this rather startling graph documenting international attitudes towards domestic violence today, based on 2001-2007 data collected by the UNICEF site, Child Info (which monitors the situation of women and children).

Are you seeing what we’re seeing? Stats saying that 81.2% of women in Laos and 63.8% in my homeland (Vietnam) think it’s acceptable for their men to hurt ‘em?

My kneejerk reaction—I want to throttle all of these ladies myself. Does shaking count? What about shaking while shouting, “IT IS NOT OKAY FOR ONE SINGLE FUCKER TO LAY A HAND ON YOU, DO YOU HEAR ME??? DO YOU FUCKING HEAR ME?!?!!?”

But my gut just says, wow. I’m pretty sure my grandmas (R.I.P.) were once those women. And who’d a thunk their kids–my mom and dad–would raise a daughter to spend her days swilling whiskey, getting angry, and threatening to chop dicks off (for the right reason, of course)? ‘Cuz they did.

Like I said, wow.

[Global Health: Screenshots]
[Child Info: Monitoring the Situation of Women and Children]
[via Buzzfeed]

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March 27th, 2009 | 0 comments | Posted by Jen

This week in Fairfield, CT, 37 year-old Helen Sun attempted to reconcile with her husband Robert Drawbough by handcuffing herself to him as he slept and then biting him all over his body.

Helen Sun: I Like it Rough

Listen to Drawbough’s desperate 911 call:

Poor Helen…doesn’t she know people pay good money for that shit?


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Wow, Chris Brown

March 3rd, 2009 | 0 comments | Posted by Diana

Is this what “I’m ashamed about my involvement in a highly publicized domestic violence dispute that allegedly left my girlfriend with a split lip and giant welts all over her face–and can’t believe all of this went down before I’d even been alive for two decades” looks like?

Brown, contemplating his fate in Florida

Hunh. I had no idea.


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The Definition of Bad Timing

February 20th, 2009 | 0 comments | Posted by Jen
Quest Crew

On the same day that TMZ posted a photo taken of Rihanna’s battered face after she was allegedly assaulted by Chris Brown, MTV’s America’s Best Dance Crew aired their “Battle of the Sexes” episode, wherein the four remaining teams competed, two all-male and two all-female. In what can only be described as exquisitely poor timing (not to mention taste), the all-male Quest Crew was assigned to dance to Chris Brown’s “Forever,” while the all-female Fly Khicks crew was asked to perform a routine to Rihanna’s “Pon de Replay.” I physically cringed when one of the members of Quest Crew (whom I adore)–in reference to Chris Brown’s MJ-esque footwork–said, quite innocently, “No one does it like Chris Brown.”

You can say that again.


Watch the full episode here.


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