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I’m An Asian Woman And I Think Blog Posts Defining That Identity By Who Someone Like Me Would Or Wouldn’t Date Are Bullshit
Is there a worthwhile discussion to be had about interracial dating and relationships?
The answer seems to be no, if you’ve paid any attention to posts written on the subject that have been blowing up my little patch of the Internet lately. Of course I’m referring to “I’m An Asian Woman And I Refuse To Ever Date An Asian Man” by Jenny An, and the clickbait-y response to An’s clickbait-y call, “I Am An Asian Woman And I Think Asian Boyfriends Are Superior (Well, Mine Is Anyway),” by Clarissa Wei, both published on xojane, a site to which I’ve contributed.
Simply put: I’m An Asian Woman And I Think This Conversation Sucks.
First things first. I don’t give a fuck who these women fuck or, really, what any woman chooses to do with her own vagina. Because it’s her own vagina, get it? And because it’s her own vagina, she doesn’t need to justify what she does with it. It should go without saying that a woman can do whatever she wants with her own body. But when she feels the need to explain why she does what she does with it, which is what these posts boil down to for me, she’s just playing into this very old and very male idea that a woman needs to justify what she does with her own body because, ultimately, she doesn’t have authority over, I repeat, her own body. Sound familiar? It should (see: “the war on women”).
The other problem with these posts is that they put race and gender at odds with one another, like they have this mutually exclusive relationship, and you have to choose one or the other to have some kind of cohesive identity. If you believe An’s argument–which she later backpedaled on, calling it “a character” designed to provoke discussion–as an Asian woman, in order to reject “patriarchy and cultural sexism,” you have to be a racist dick and Continue reading I’m An Asian Woman And I Think Blog Posts Defining That Identity By Who Someone Like Me Would Or Wouldn’t Date Are Bullshit
Filed under: Asian American Women and Feminism, Audre Lorde, Clickbait, Dating, Feminism, Interracial Dating, Interracial Relationships, Relationships, Self-Definition, The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master's House, Vagina, Vaginas, Women of Color, xojane
Comic artist Laura Park was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. After having surgery in June, she drew this panel to commemorate opening the $67,373.81 bill she received in July. [boingboing]
DISGRASIAN™ co-founder and editor Jen moderated the fashion blogging panel at V3Con last week. Panelist Tommy Lei of MY BELONGING blog recapped the session. [MYBELONGING]
Software engineer and long time Google employee Chade-Meng Tan talked to The Economist about Search Inside Yourself, a meditation program he has been running at the company since 2007. [The Economist]
First Lady Michelle Obama visited with Sikh American families affected by the tragic shooting in Oak Creek, Wisconsin on August 24. In addition to offering her condolences, the First Lady “underscored how strong those who died were, and how strong the Sikh community continues to be.” [WhiteHouse.gov]
The man known as Kenji Fujimoto, who wrote a tell-all about the lavish lifestyle enjoyed by the late Kim Jong-il, was surprised to be welcomed back so warmly by Kim Jong-un on a recent trip to North Korea. [New York Times]
While Psy’s “Gangnam Style” continues to amaze and delight here in the US, people back in Korea are confused by its success. [WSJ]
Congratulations are in order for Lydia Ko, who became the youngest winner in LPGA tour history last weekend. [Yahoo! Sports]
If you want to be down with Asian American culture, you need to be in the San Gabriel Valley in Southern California. It’s an exciting time for those Chinese-Americans who are coming of age in ‘the 626.’ [Los Angeles Times]
Tiaras! Infected makeup! An amorous emcee! The Miss Hong Kong 2012 pageant had Continue reading Intern Jasmine’s Links Of The Daysian
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Stocking stuffer? A fancy White lady’s “practical” book on interracial dating called, shit you not, I Got The Fever: Better Dating Through Ethnic Stereotypes. [Jezebel]
The problem with Foursquare check-ins in North Korea is that no matter how you try, Kim Jong Il is always going to be awarded mayor of everything. [Gadling]
Shoeless in Shanghai! English filmmaker Arthur Jones is going barefoot for an entire year. [NPR]
American fashion designer Diane Von Furstenberg is making good on her 2010 New Year’s resolution to “get known in China.” [NYT]
Sepia Mutiny makes a strong case for the Desi origins of “the Dougie.” [Sepia Mutiny]
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