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I’m An Asian Woman And I Think Blog Posts Defining That Identity By Who Someone Like Me Would Or Wouldn’t Date Are Bullshit

Is there a worthwhile discussion to be had about interracial dating and relationships?

The answer seems to be no, if you’ve paid any attention to posts written on the subject that have been blowing up my little patch of the Internet lately. Of course I’m referring to “I’m An Asian Woman And I Refuse To Ever Date An Asian Man” by Jenny An, and the clickbait-y response to An’s clickbait-y call, “I Am An Asian Woman And I Think Asian Boyfriends Are Superior (Well, Mine Is Anyway),” by Clarissa Wei, both published on xojane, a site to which I’ve contributed.

Simply put: I’m An Asian Woman And I Think This Conversation Sucks.

First things first. I don’t give a fuck who these women fuck or, really, what any woman chooses to do with her own vagina. Because it’s her own vagina, get it? And because it’s her own vagina, she doesn’t need to justify what she does with it. It should go without saying that a woman can do whatever she wants with her own body. But when she feels the need to explain why she does what she does with it, which is what these posts boil down to for me, she’s just playing into this very old and very male idea that a woman needs to justify what she does with her own body because, ultimately, she doesn’t have authority over, I repeat, her own body. Sound familiar? It should (see: “the war on women”).

The other problem with these posts is that they put race and gender at odds with one another, like they have this mutually exclusive relationship, and you have to choose one or the other to have some kind of cohesive identity. If you believe An’s argument–which she later backpedaled on, calling it “a character” designed to provoke discussion–as an Asian woman, in order to reject “patriarchy and cultural sexism,” you have to be a racist dick and Continue reading I’m An Asian Woman And I Think Blog Posts Defining That Identity By Who Someone Like Me Would Or Wouldn’t Date Are Bullshit

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170 in 7: A Bone Marrow Cyberdrive in Memory of Janet Liang

Last week, UCLA student Janet Liang sadly succumbed to the leukemia she was first diagnosed with in 2009.

Before her untimely death, however, Janet and her supporters, known as Team Janet, devoted themselves tirelessly to raising awareness for the need for more marrow donors in minority communities.

Janet made it her mission to register as many Asian Americans to the National Marrow Donor Program. While Janet was not able to find a marrow match for herself, Team Janet‘s efforts helped in making at least 18 marrow matches for other patients.

There are still many Asian American leukemia patients looking for marrow matches. It is especially difficult for them to make perfect matches, as there are not many Asian Americans registered as donors. Getting more of us tested and registered is crucial.

Here’s how you can help:

Our pal Jenn at Reappropriate has organized 170 In 7: A Bone Marrow Cyberdrive in Memory of Janiet Liang. The goal is to register 170 new potential donors in 7 days to the national registry in Janet’s memory. Joining the drive is simple:

  1. Fill out the form at to request a do-it-yourself cheek swab kit.
  2. Tweet with the hashtag #170in7 or send an email to jenn[at]reappropriate[dot]co to be counted.

And that’s it! For more details about the drive, read about it here on Reappropriate.


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My Spirit Animal Shows Up At NYFW: Designer Alexander Wang’s Niece, Aila

I generally do not like excessively well-dressed children. Clarification: I generally do not like the parents of excessively well-dressed children, specifically their inability to keep their desperate aspirational spooge from spilling over onto their offspring in such an obvious way.

Don’t get me wrong. I like excessively well-dressed people. Grown-ups who have had a say in the matter of what they’re wearing (and have actually paid for what they’re wearing, too). And I do like cute kids’ clothes, I really do, and I don’t think a kid has to dress like Sesame Street just vomited on them, but when the way a child dresses starts to veer into “chic” or “cool” or what fashion people call “style,” I’m out. (Same goes for rock t-shirts on babies. Stop it with the Metallica and Beastie Boys and David Bowie shirts, all of you.)

So imagine my surprise when I saw pictures of designer Alexander Wang’s niece, Aila Wang, at this year’s New York Fashion Week, and found myself wondering if this 4 year-old wasn’t some kind of sartorial chosen one? Or, at the very least, my spirit animal:

Maybe it’s because she’s Asian and a total muffin, regardless of what she’s wearing. Maybe it’s because I want her entire outfit head-to-toe (Nike Free Runs with a python dress designed by her uncle?! Genius.) I don’t know. I’m so confused right now.

[via Buzzfeed]

[ Was Liberty Ross or little Aila Wang the woman of the Alexander Wang show?]

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Intern Jasmine’s Links Of The Daysian

Oh look, it’s just my top two celebrity boyfriends, Kal Penn and John Cho, hanging out and taking calls from the President. [YouTube]

Did you know a white Harvard dropout from the Upper East Side of NYC started one of the first Asian American studies programs in the country? Alexander Saxton, who helped establish UCLA’s Asian American studies program in the 1970s, died last week at the age of 93. [NYT]

Why does Xinhuanet list Heath Ledger as one of their super movie villains of all time using the poster from Brokeback Mountain? [Xinhuanet via Beijing Cream]

Here are some stills and a teaser for Chink, a movie about an Asian American serial killer Continue reading Intern Jasmine’s Links Of The Daysian

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DISGRASIAN Goes To The Movies: “4 Wedding Planners” [REVIEW]

Unlike another comedy that also features the words “four wedding[s]” in its title, there are no awkward, pasty Englishmen stammmering and stumbling about–thank goodness–in Michael Kang‘s third feature film, 4 Wedding Planners.

Instead, we have Lily (Kimberly-Rose Wolter, who also wrote the film) getting pulled into the family wedding planning business, and possibly into the arms of her ex-boyfriend, played by the always game and always SUPER HOT Sung Kang (aka “Jen’s boyfriend” here at DISGRASIAN HQ).

Yes, we are totally posting this because Sung Kang's shirt is off: Kang & Kang (4 Wedding Planners' director Michael Kang)

Lily is one of three daughters raised by a single white mother (Illeana Douglas) in Hawaii. Janel Parrish–crazy Mona from ABC Family’s Pretty Little Liars–and Mia Riverton round Continue reading DISGRASIAN Goes To The Movies: “4 Wedding Planners” [REVIEW]

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