Asian Americans Marrying Other Asian Americans Is Fashionable And Stylish

April 2nd, 2012 | 4 comments | Posted by Jen

Over the weekend, the front-page, top NY Times Fashion & Style story was one about the “trend” of Asian Americans marrying other Asian Americans, even while Asian Americans as a group still “trend” among the highest in intermarrying. Follow?

The reasons cited in the NYT for this so-called trend seemed to boil down to Asian Americans wanting to get back to our Asian-y Asianness. A few examples:

…a surge in immigration from Asia over the last three decades has greatly increased the number of eligible bachelors and bachelorettes, giving young people many more options among Asian-Americans. It has also inspired a resurgence of interest in language and ancestral traditions among some newlyweds.

Ed Lin, 36, a marketing director in Los Angeles who was married in October, said that his wife, Lily Lin, had given him a deeper understanding of many Chinese traditions. Mrs. Lin, 32, who was born in Taiwan and grew up in New Orleans, has taught him the terms in Mandarin for his maternal and paternal grandparents, familiarized him with the red egg celebrations for newborns and elaborated on other cultural customs, like the proper way to exchange red envelopes on Chinese New Year.

Ms. Le is a gregarious, ambitious corporate lawyer, but in her parents’ home, she said, “There’s a switch that you flip.” In their presence, she is demure. She looks down when she speaks, to demonstrate her respect for her mother and father. She pours their tea, slices their fruit and serves their meals, handing them dishes with both hands. Her white boyfriend, she said, was “weirded out” by it all.

In fall 2010, she became engaged to Neil Vaishnav, an Indian-American lawyer who was born in the United States to immigrant parents, just as she was. They agreed that husbands and wives should be equal partners in the home, and they share a sense of humor that veers toward wackiness. (He encourages her out-of-tune singing and high kicks in karaoke bars.) But they also revere their family traditions of cherishing their elders.

Not sure if this is a news story exactly, though it’s reassuring to know that our marriage habits are considered as fashionable for spring as gingham plaid and skin care products for newborns.

[NYT: For Asian-American Couples, a Tie That Binds]

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4 Responses to “Asian Americans Marrying Other Asian Americans Is Fashionable And Stylish”

  1. turkfontaine says:

    i remember when white guys all wanted to marry blond white girls. that didn’t turn out too good. i think the divorce rate is around 130 pc now, on accounta a bunch of us got married and divorced more than once.

    my next wife is gonna be a 65 yr old Vietnamese woman who rides around on the back of my moped hitting me in the head with a rolled up magazine. she won’t speak English and i don’t speak Vietnamese and we will live happily ever after

  2. Cindy says:

    I’m relieved that Ed has learned the proper way to exchange red envelopes on Chinese New Year. Relieved.

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  4. V_V says:

    That’s a weird thing to called “trendy”. I mean, it seems common enough and at least where I live (Northern CA), has been happening for a while. How does one determine a trend, anyway?

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